A careful and considered approach, which will require a great deal of thought on your part – are key to deciding if the process is right for your situation.

Get rid of the anger – we know you are hurt and asking questions as to how it all came to this.

If you have reached that point in your relationship where it cannot logically continue and the end is here or in sight, then anger and the other emotions attendant on a relationship breakdown are just a waste of time and energy.

Save your energy and your emotional capital – you and your children will need every ounce of them as this matter continues. Even the most pleasant and polite relationship breakdowns are draining, not only for you and your former partner, but also for your lawyer.

So be logical – sit down and list out all the financial and material assets of the relationship. List out your liabilities and sit down and work out what you will need to start the next phase of your life. Give long and deliberate consideration to the needs of your children – schooling, sporting, medical and the list will go on.

Once you have done all of this then it’s time to speak to your lawyer.

If you want to travel the collaborative route then search for a lawyer who practices in this field. Do your homework and if need be make enquiries about the lawyer/s you might consider engaging to work for you.

On the Fraser Coast Lesley Powell of Milburns Law [4125 6333] and Don Gayler of Gayler Legal [4124 7100] have established The Family Law Centre – Fraser Coast to assist those considering or going through a relationship break down. Give them a call – they will be happy to discuss the collaborative option with you. Lesley and Don are both experienced lawyers who have the best interests of their clients at heart – they are caring, have integrity and a real desire to assist you.