A relationship break-up is difficult at the best of times.

If you find yourself in this unfortunate position then remember that there are probably 3 important things for you to keep uppermost in your thoughts.

First, there is your well-being. Without a sensible approach to maintaining your health and mental balance, you cannot help those who are also impacted by the break-up.

Second, there will be your children. You must remain strong and you must always be certain that what you are doing will bring the best outcome for them – they are not to be pawns in a battle with your former partner. The welfare and safety for your children must always be uppermost in your mind.

Thirdly, there is the issue of ensuring that you achieve a sensible outcome for the property of the relationship. Why is that? Because you will need to start a new chapter in your life and that means that you will need money and other resources to do that.

Always keep in mind that your former partner will be looking to the same outcomes but above all remain calm and adopt a reasoned approach to the problems which confront you.

Getting down and dirty doesn’t work. Remember, your former partner, is someone you loved. That might not be the case now, but you have to move on. You need to move on for your own well-being and that of your children.

Moving on with your dignity intact is vital.

You might not have the retention of respect in mind at a time like this, but moving on with your self-respect and the respect of those friends and family members, who will be interested spectators, will stand you in good stead for the future.

This is a tough time for you – don’t make it harder by participating in a race to the bottom.

The tips set out in this blog might not seem important now but as you move forward with the next phase of your life, you will appreciate the wisdom of the tips.