If you elect to resolve your partnership breakdown by the collaborative law process then this will involve both you and your partner. The collaborative family law resolution process cannot work without the participation and co-operation of both you and your partner. Adopting a co-operative approach will be critical to a successful outcome. Both you and your partner will each have a lawyer. They will work with you to resolve your dispute but remember this, above all, goodwill and a determination to resolve issues in a fair way for the benefit […]
Are the signs there? Are the little things that you once held to be important in your relationship missing? The warmth – the affection – the closeness. Do you question why you are still there? Most couples in a relationship would be less than honest if they did not admit that from time to time they were concerned about the future of their relationship, even if only for a moment or two. Relationships fail for lots of reasons but ending a relationship can be difficult – emotionally and financially. Some […]
If you are going through a matrimonial or partnership split – then do yourself a favour!! Sit down and calmly try to think through the process, that is the process relating to how you deal with your emotional and financial needs not only for yourself but also for your children. Set out rules which you want to stick by – rules that will leave you in control and allow you to take the high moral ground. We know you’re hurting but try to put that aside for the moment. Your […]
All the gut wrenching is over – you’ve made the decision to separate or maybe the decision was made for you. But before you enter into the minefield of Family Law and the warm and tender embrace of your lawyer, just stop and think about the kind of separation you would prefer. It’s probably not where you are now because you’re feeling anger, even hatred for your partner. Calm down and think about this – anger and hatred are such wasted emotions in terms of time and energy. You can put […]
A relationship break-up is difficult at the best of times. If you find yourself in this unfortunate position then remember that there are probably 3 important things for you to keep uppermost in your thoughts. First, there is your well-being. Without a sensible approach to maintaining your health and mental balance, you cannot help those who are also impacted by the break-up. Second, there will be your children. You must remain strong and you must always be certain that what you are doing will bring the best outcome for them […]
Not many of us would remember singer/songwriter Neil Sedaka and no doubt only a few of us remember his hit song of the early 1960’s – ‘Breaking Up Is Hard to Do’. Sedaka’s song went like this – You tell me that you’re leavin’ I can’t believe it’s true Girl, there’s just no livin’ without you Don’t take your love away from me Don’t leave my heart in misery ‘Cause if you go, then I’ll be blue Breakin’ up is hard to do The song is about the ending […]
Think before you click……………….there’s many a slip to be made. The increasing use of social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and even popular professional networking sites like LinkedIn are increasingly changing the way family law matters are conducted. Social media makes it possible to keep in touch easily and quickly with family and friends in an instant. This ease of communicating also means that it is easier for others to track your personal and private information, particularly in court proceedings. The use of social media as evidence in […]
So who let the dogs out? Don’t let your fur child be collateral damage when your relationship breaks down. When we think about a relationship breakdown we know that the welfare of children is vitally important but then there are other important souls to consider as well. Our loyal and devoted furry friends need to be considered too. Who will take your pets and who will care for them? Loyalty and devotion are to be rewarded and not forgotten in the turmoil of a relationship breakdown. The Family Law Act […]
When you or your partner don’t want the relationship to be over, how do you both cope? As I always tell my clients, the relationship is over when your partner says it is and there is nothing you can do about it unless your partner is willing to join you in a concerted effort to restore it or find out what is going wrong. I find myself saying this to my clients far more than I am comfortable with, but it’s so true. If your partner is not a willing […]
So you and your partner have finally decided that there is no future in your relationship. Sad as that might be – you both have had to face the facts and they are that the love you once had for each other no longer exists. It might be that you have just drifted apart or that you each now seek different goals or perhaps it might be that the differences which you could in the past paper over are now just too much to deal with. So, irrespective of who […]
